‘I can’t imagine how they’d react if I told them that a little brother or a sister was on the way.’It’s another reason why, over the past seven years, Dan is confident he ‘hasn’t regretted the vasectomy once’.
Steve Mc Laren, a 41-year-old physiotherapist from Newcastle, who describes modern dating tactics as ‘terrifying’, is another man without regrets about taking back control.
In some cases they are becoming increasingly predatory about seeking ‘father material’. They will do anything and everything to pursue this, even if it means duping a man into having unprotected sex.
” But then if you are desperate to have kids, I suppose you just want to get on with it.‘The whole experience was a bit terrifying, if I’m honest.
There is a sense they’re hunting for Mr Right Now and that they need to “cram in” having a baby before it’s too late.
I’ve never had unprotected sex.’Currently single, he says: ‘I’m not looking for a relationship: I’ve just started a new job and my life is hectic already.
If I want to unwind, I’ll pop along to my local pub for a pint with some friends.‘I’ve done the small children phase of my life and it isn’t something I’d want to do again.
After his marriage collapsed in 2015, Steve tried dating sites such as Plenty Of Fish and Tinder only to be astonished at how brazen some women were about wanting a baby.‘Even if you put on your dating profile “no” to the question: “Would you consider having children?
” it is still the first question some women ask.‘I recall thinking, “Whoa, steady on, we don’t even know each other yet!
That’s why Dan from Hastings underwent his vasectomy in 2010 at the age of 43.
He says: ‘While it was an NHS procedure, it was performed at a private clinic.
‘I didn’t doubt she’d make a fantastic mother, but that wasn’t what I wanted.’While the couple did use contraception that night, things fizzled out weeks later.
Dan says: ‘It wasn’t a coincidence that I went on to have a vasectomy shortly afterwards’.
Three months into a fledgling relationship, divorcee Dan Short was in bed with his attractive, much younger partner when she whispered a proposal that punctured the mood.