If you tell a man that you will never accept his truth: that he’s attracted to other women, that he’s going to have lunch with an ex-girlfriend, that he keeps photos from his past in an album stored in his closet, that sometimes he feels trapped in the relationship… A man who is forced to tell lies by a girlfriend who doesn’t accept him will eventually leave to find a less oppressive environment.And so, my friend, Jason, if you don’t know that your girlfriend can handle the truth, don’t tell her the truth.I’m assuming your first “date” didn’t include “the talk” to date exclusively and I’m assuming you didn’t get more physical than a hug or a kiss.
Her: “No, I’d dump you and never forgive you.” Me: “Then what incentive would I have to tell you the truth if it meant you’d dump me?
” Her, after a pause: “Well, that’s what a real man would do! This ridiculous conversation took place probably 5 times in our six-month relationship, where she told me that I’d better tell her the truth if I cheated, and I parroted back the only answer I could, “If I ever cheated, you can be sure I wouldn’t tell you about it.” I share this as an aside to your original question, because I think it’s interesting and relevant. If you accept his unsightly truths, you can have a man who is comfortable being himself around you…and a man who is himself around you is a man who will marry you.
According to The New York Times, the most consistent data on infidelity comes from the University of Chicago's General Social Survey (GSS).
Interviews with people in non-monogamous relationships since 1972 by the GSS have shown that approximately 12% of men and 7% of women admit to having had an extramarital relationship.
We actually met through a dating site and we were talking a few weeks before our first date.
The problem I am dealing with is that a couple days after our first date, I actually had a one-night stand after a long night at the bar.
Results, however, vary year by year, and also by age-group surveyed.
For example, one study conducted by the University of Washington, Seattle found slightly, or significantly higher rates of infidelity for populations under 35, or older than 60.
Oh, and the fact that my wife kept her account alive for the first two months of our relationship didn’t impact my trust towards her either. It is a “meet and greet”, you have not met the person.
How can you cheat on someone you have only met once?
You want to get this guilt off your chest and aren’t quite sure how she’d take it. This is very similar to a post I wrote a few years back, where a guy’s girlfriend dumped him, he had a one-night stand, and then they got back together. But that doesn’t mean that his girlfriend would agree.